Let go

One of the hardest lessons that I have learnt in life is about letting go. Resilience, grit and determination, perseverance are qualities that I associate with myself and take pride in as well. As with every thing in life, hind sight is the best yardstick to decide whether we crossed the line. Between bravery and stupidity, between becoming history or creating history and for so many such things. At any point in time we create a picture, the ideal scenario that we feel is what exactly life for us is. And there are key players, parameters, destinations and milestones, aspirations, needs, wishes that help in setting the ideal equation of life. The force propelling us towards moving on and trying to achieve or realize this is called drive. It's essential to have these things in order...set goals, have dreams and then work hard towards achieving them. All good. There's a caveat to this entire situation. When we are so passionately involved in the pursuit of anything, we generally become so deeply involved that we tend to become desperate. It is good to be desperate, without that perhaps none of the biggest breakthroughs would have never happened. But while being desperate and over zealot may sometimes produce instantaneous results, they alone can never lead to sustained happiness or success. There will be fatigue as natural laws tell us that nothing in the universe can always stay in an excited state. The key to this situation is to do regular assessments by taking oneself out  of the picture. Only by taking one out of the equation, can we truly evaluate something in a clear, unbiased and objective manner. Be it work or relationships, if things are not going in the right direction over a long period of time, despite their being desperation, efforts are being put in the wrong way. It's like trying to push a wall. So, do pragmatic, quantitative assessments of the outcome by setting short term targets and then take corrective action to become better, more efficient and another step closer to the bigger dream. Only by taking each step carefully, steadily and consistently can we reach the epitome of success and happiness. Evolution doesn't happen merely through experience, it happens when we take measures and consciously bring about changes that would take us forward and make us a better, more capable human being. Only through this process of constant evolution can we truly harness our true potential. So, if it requires us to let go, to make drastic changes, then so be it. Letting go is not a sign if weakness but it is the strength to accept and look for something even better that definitely is out there. It's not about getting bogged down by one hiccup here and there. It is about knowing the larger picture, knowing that sometimes certain pieces need to be sacrificed for long term benefits. Let go if things are not working or keep them on hold, for the right time. Focus and become better at things that deliver results.